The natural state of our connections and relationships to other people exists prior to our self-judgement of those connections, and how they should be, and of ourselves and of other people. In the very same moment that our opportunity for an authentic interaction with another person arises, so too does our Consciousness, which decides whether to allow it without interruption or deny it in some way.
Of course, if we have ‘No’ Permissions around certain relationships, or even around certain individual aspects of them, (maybe we’re allowed relationships, but we’re not allowed someone who compliments us in public), then we can’t Receive those relationships, or those aspects of relationship. This triggers us when such opportunities arise and sends us into the False Self state.