“One of the things that I do not understand is grown people who sit around complaining that they have to go somewhere for Christmas, they have to go to someone’s house that they don’t want to. I don’t care who it is, I don’t care if it’s your mother, your mother-in-law, whatever it is, if you are over 21 and you don’t want to go then you don’t go.” – Jenni Trent Hughes

Sensible people celebrate Christmas and other occasions on their own terms, if at all.

As it’s Christmas it’s not so much a self-judgement as it is an Elf-judgement. (Pantomime audience groans). So shall we clear all those pesky Elf-judgements out of the way, and have an authentic, fulfilling Christmas that’s what we want – or not?

Who you have to see, that you have to buy presents, what you have to eat or drink, the games you have to play, the clothes you have to wear, the traditions you have to follow, the office party you have to attend – it all can go if you choose.

And what you want can stay. If you were to ‘invite in a Christmas beyond self-judgement’, what would that look like for you?

And employers, what self-judgements are stopping you from being okay with the fact that some of your staff may not want to attend a Christmas party?

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