Posts Tagged ‘dating’

Dating Coach Tips: Fear of Being Single

Saturday, May 15th, 2021

The following dating coach tip is a key one if you’re to live from genuine choice. As tough as it sounds, you have to be Willing to be alone forever in order to choose relationship for Love Consciousness reasons! If you’re not, then you’ve chosen relationship in order to try and avoid a fear, rather than to choose for love, from freedom. A ‘choice’ of relationship that’s driven by Unwillingness to be single is not Choice, but Fear Consciousness.

When you’re afraid to be single there’s always the potential that you’ll accept ‘any old relationship’ just to avoid being single!

A person who has no sense of fear of being single can exercise all the discernment they want.

Anywhere you have a fear of being single, would you like to let that go?

And would you like to ask your body if it would like to let that go?

Anywhere you have a fear of being in a relationship, would you like to let that go?

And would you like to ask your body if it would like to let that go?

Dating Coach Tip 2: How Do You Solve Fear of Being Single?

How do you let go of fear of being single, or get beyond fear – any fear? Kissing Consciousness provides the tools to do that so that you have what we call ‘Emotional Infinity’ in order to face and heal what we call ‘The Elusive Emotion’. If you’d like my coaching help with this please give me a call.

How This Relates to Relationships

All these principles that apply to dating continue to apply as we proceed in relationships.

If you’re presenting a False Self, that denies the possibility of authentic connection. If you’ve got fear of being single, you’re likely going to be interpreting things subjectively, rather than objectively, bending over backwards or walking on eggshells just to keep the relationship going, and perhaps not realising the degree to which you’re not speaking your truth.

A person with no fear of being single is much more likely to respond to a crap relationship with “Fuck that shit, I’m outta here!”, and so more likely to only accept good ones.

Anywhere you have self-judgements that you have to accept a love-starved or sex-starved, intimacy-starved or respect-starved marriage or relationship, would you like to let that go?

And would you like to ask your body if it would like to let that go?

This dating coach tip comes from my book, ‘Kissing Consciousness: Inviting in a World Beyond Self-Judgement‘.

Dating Coach Tips: Nerves and ‘Butterflies’ on Dates

Monday, May 3rd, 2021

Here’s my dating coach tip for how to relate to our nerves. People talk about having nerves – ‘butterflies’ – on a date in the same way they might talk about something unwelcome.

If they really understood the positive quality and nature of them, though, and what the experience was prior to their learned habit of judging their nerves, they’d relate to them in a very different, perhaps completely opposite way, as something welcome and delightful, rather more like they’re having an energetic orgasm, or chocolate cake, or someone’s just given them a million pounds. It’s delicious. It’s the excitement of vulnerability.

“What if your nerves are really excitement in disguise?”

But before we get a chance to taste that we’ve already judged it, and so we don’t inhabit it, and so we don’t honour it as our Being. We experience it as a concept in our head rather than a dance in our skin and body.

Dating Coach Tip: What if your nerves are really excitement in disguise?

So rather than reject our nerves, or consider them unwelcome, maybe we can go with them, and allow them to be the excitement in disguise that they may really be!

Of course, if the body’s signals are alarm bells of a dangerous or disrespectful person, that is a different thing to Receive Awareness about.

This dating coach tip comes from my book, ‘Kissing Consciousness: Inviting in a World Beyond Self-Judgement‘.

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