The Challenges You’re Facing
Some or all of these four will apply to you
Mind
Perhaps you would like to be more confident, or have more peace of mind, or wish to be happier, or would like to be able to handle your emotions better.
Or it may be that you are at a spiritual crossroads, or even crisis. Maybe you wish to understand your true nature better, or wish to have a deeper, more meaningful life with greater spiritual fulfilment.
It’s not nice to be living life feeling – or knowing – that we’re not engaging our time here on Earth in the way that we sense is possible… that something is missing.
Body
Perhaps you would like to have more energy, or you have low health and a lifestyle you’d like to change, or you’d like to be slimmer, or feel younger. In any case, you can have a better relationship with your body.
Maybe life has been stressful for you, or even traumatic, and you’d like to have a more relaxed nervous system and be more comfortable in your own skin.
Good health is invisible, we take it for granted, but poor health and/or an unwanted weight issue is dominant. It can weigh heavy on the mind day to day. And a deeper underlying negative effect can be a crippling lack of self-esteem, or even fear.
Relationships
Perhaps you wish to find a relationship, but are having some challenge with that around dating, or you’re already in a relationship and it is struggling with some issue(s) or feeling that has occurred.
Without a truly happy and blissful love relationship, life can feel lonely, with heartache, even, and as if it’s missing something fundamental. Part of that is being sure that it is the right relationship for you – whether it’s a relationship you’re already in, or one you’re considering, or one you’re searching for.
And once you’ve found the right relationship, how to make it harmonious, or even blissful?
Money and Social Prosperity
For all the judgement, it’s better – and wiser – to have money than not to. It’s even more important now, as global economic system failure is stretching the minimum income required for a comfortable lifestyle.
And that success can’t come at the cost of our health, and you’ll likely prefer it involve some kind of job satisfaction, too.
Whilst being rich is not everything it certainly takes the sting out of being poor, and being successful with money can enable a remarkable and fulfilling quality of life.
Money is often about more than just money. It’s a reflection of a deeper reality within us. Are we feeling that we’re fulfilling our full potential in life? Are we giving the world our light and talent? Or is that desire for some form of creative, productive expression currently frustrated?
These are the four primary areas of life. To have all four functioning well allows life to flow nicely and gain a rhythm.
I Can Relate to These Feelings and Challenges
Finding Solutions
Image: Blarney Castle in Ireland. Kissing the Blarney Stone, a tradition that’s been around for several centuries, is said to give a person the gift of eloquence and persuasiveness.
‘A Shy Young Man’: Struggling with Mind, Body, Relationships and Prosperity
Like many people, my upbringing left me unhappy, unsure of where to go and what to do, without confidence, in a body I was at odds with, shy, less than good at talking to the opposite sex (that’s putting it mildly) and a million miles from my right vocation that could provide any kind of financial freedom.
What’s more, looking for solutions in the self-help/personal development world brought up a mixed bag of philosophies and speakers which lacked the wisdom and flexibility to be helpful enough.
At age twenty-one, as a shy young man, I visited Blarney Castle in Ireland and kissed the famous Blarney Stone – an act said to give all who do the ‘gift of the gab’. I felt sure I would become confident at speaking – and simply being the ‘real me’ as I saw me – but not because I believed in a magical thinking myth (likely designed for tourists), but I knew deep down I should be capable of such things, and I was determined to find the solutions and do all the work necessary to reclaim my true self.
Having had anxiety attacks since the age of eleven and having taken my exams in a room on my own aged sixteen as a result, I completed my first radio interview in 2013 at a radio station in Slough, UK with 80,000 people listening in. That was on the pretty deep topic of ‘What is Wisdom?’
You can see the transformation from panic attack-ridden adult to confident international speaker in the video below.
I completed training in Conscious Relating, to the point that I then taught it myself in seminars.
I learned ‘Body Wisdom’ from David Heard, who is the Founder of the National Rehabilitation Centre for the Paralysed, and a trainer of elite athletes such as England Cricket Captain, Andy Strauss.
I interviewed the country’s top sleep expert, Dr Neil Stanley, the former Chair of the British Sleep Society. I interviewed one of Madonna’s nutritionists, Dr Laurent Bannock, who did her ‘Biological Terrain Analysis’.
I learned Integral Philosophy from Ken Wilber. And I learned from decades of self-employment, marketing expertise and sales, and time as an eCommerce Project Manager.
Throughout all that time I was constantly observing myself, reading and learning about my mind and my true nature.
The Kissing Consciousness logo above actually represents these four elements of mind (green element), body (blue), relationships (red) and prosperity (gold).
The Kissing Consciousness Approach
I later devised Kissing Consciousness, and wrote the Handbook for the movement by the same name to give people all the insights of its wisdom as best as a book can.
It is from this perspective that I can see that the challenges that people face can mostly be resolved – and I can usually see the most effective way to do that.
At the same time, I’m responsible. I can’t promise you any love interest will choose you (or keep choosing you), and this isn’t a miracle cure for illnesses, but beyond things like that there is a very simple dynamic as to whether we allow ourselves to be who we are in each aspect (or whether we self-sabotage), and then after that it’s a case of a few basic life skills and insights that bring about the best of what’s possible for you.
Bring your body! (What?!?)
That might sound like a silly thing to say – of course you’re going to bring your body, you go everywhere with it.
What I mean by that, though, is that your body needs to be engaged for success. If you solely focus on success as something in the mind, intellectually, you’re going to end up with the intellectual sense that you ‘SHOULD’ be able to allow yourself success, but not the embodiment to actually receive it for real.
“This is an invitation to embody being alive even more.” – James Blacker
You are made up of a mind and a body: You can’t leave half of that whole behind.
Everybody’s body wants to move. If you’re resistant to that it’s probably the first place to start to heal that and everything else.
Please note: Everything you might do at this event will be because you choose to. This is a gentle class and I my approach is to align with your choice, always. This isn’t one of those force-you-to-do-things groups, nor is it a fitness class for ex-marines.
Just One Actionable Insight
“If people manage to move one significant thing that’s in their way… That’s worth a shed load!” – Kylie Stedman
Just one actionable insight that actually removes something that is felt as an obstacle – in the nervous system. Just one. Is enough. Enough to make a world of difference.
